@largetony is that the first time I've seen you use the word 'boyfriend'?— Brenton Parry (@aussiebrenton) November 23, 2012
Although not often, I’ve definitely used the term “boyfriend” in reference to The Attorney before.
In fact, I remember the first time I accidentally said it out loud.
But that was when things were still very new between us.
The reason I don’t use it much now is because “boyfriends” always makes me think of fresh-faced twenty-somethings.
At 37 and 52, we are a far cry from those days.
Even though we have become as routine as an old married couple, I can’t really say “husband.”
I don’t see a ring on my finger.
Nor do we share a home, vehicles, bank accounts, etc.
Plus, this is Tennessee. Birthplace of the Tea Party.1
“Sidekick” implies that one is in charge of the other.
We both have alpha tendencies, depending on the time, place, or activity.
So that’s probably why I mostly use the word “partner.”
It’s the best fit for us.
Because good partnerships balance each other’s strengths and weaknesses toward a better whole.
And in that regard, we make a pretty good team.
Which is pretty much what makes any sort of relationship a success:
Maybe the right word is “teammate.”
I kinda like that image.
Not the tea dance. ↩