Posted on November 26, 2012
@largetony is that the first time I've seen you use the word 'boyfriend'?— Brenton Parry (@aussiebrenton) November 23, 2012
Although not often, I’ve definitely used the term “boyfriend” in reference to The Attorney before.
In fact, I remember the first time I accidentally said it out loud.
But that was when things were still very new between us.
The reason I don’t use it much now is because “boyfriends” always makes me think of fresh-faced twenty-somethings.
At 37 and 52, we are a far cry from those days.
Even though we have become as routine as an old married couple, I can’t really say “husband.”
I don’t see a ring on my finger.
Nor do we share a home, vehicles, bank accounts, etc.
Plus, this is Tennessee. Birthplace of the Tea Party. 1
“Sidekick” implies that one is in charge of the other.
We both have alpha tendencies, depending on the time, place, or activity.
So that’s probably why I mostly use the word “partner.”
It’s the best fit for us.
Because good partnerships balance each other’s strengths and weaknesses toward a better whole.
And in that regard, we make a pretty good team.
Which is pretty much what makes any sort of relationship a success:
Maybe the right word is “teammate.”
I kinda like that image.
- Not the tea dance. ↩